Comments for Getting Past Your Past

Comment on 7/10 Check in by greenroses73

greenroses73 — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 21:03:08 +0000

Good for you! Please be patient with yourself. You had this encounter with him only yesterday. When he chose to come clean and get rid of his BS (thanks very much to him! I wouldn’t be singing from the rooftop either!).
Be patient. It’s great that you have stuff to do. I always found it therapeutic to have WORK. It’s really sacred to me.
PS: You WILL be singing from the rooftop again one day. Trust that!

Comment on 7/10 Check in by greenroses73

greenroses73 — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 20:58:40 +0000

Funny, I also sometimes take my camera with me on a walk. It is nice to “make new memories” this way.

Comment on Books. Make your recommendations/ask questions by Susan J. Elliott

Susan J. Elliott — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 20:58:29 +0000

FIXED!!! Thanks!

Comment on 7/10 Check in by greenroses73

greenroses73 — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 20:56:07 +0000

That is so true. And today it felt like a gift (after having been in the house all weekend).

It was one of the things I had promised myself: never to spend a day without leaving the house at least once (especially back when I was in the grieving stage). I used to stick to that, but in the past months sometimes not.

It’s a good habit to go outside!

Comment on Books. Make your recommendations/ask questions by carnellian05

carnellian05 — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 20:55:36 +0000

Yes, I actually double checked to make sure my eyes weren’t deceiving me :) It’s all good!

Comment on 7/10 Check in by tigerlily47

tigerlily47 — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 20:53:03 +0000

Today’s better than yesterday, but since my ex felt compelled to come clean, I’ve definitely regressed in the process of getting a little further ahead in healing and letting go.

I know I am recycling, and that it’s normal, but it’s frustrating. I had reached a point where I could go for hours without thinking about him. And when he did pop into my head, I could shove him out pretty easily and quickly. For the past two days, he’s been permanently lodged there and I want him to leave!

Lucky for me, I guess, I have a ton of work ahead of me–deadlines for my business and packing to finish. I’m hoping to throw myself into these things so I won’t have enough time to hash and re-hash things over and over in my head.

Baby steps, I guess. I spent all day yesterday crying and falling apart and beating myself up. Today, I’m not exactly singing from the rooftop, but I am more clearheaded and I can feel my determination to move on coming back.

Comment on Books. Make your recommendations/ask questions by Susan J. Elliott

Susan J. Elliott — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 20:51:07 +0000

Are you kidding me? I don’t have Road Less Traveled on the list???? How many M. Scott Peck quotes do I have in the book? MULTIPLE!!! And on the blog? Too many to mention.

Thank you for letting me know. Major OVERSIGHT!

Comment on Books. Make your recommendations/ask questions by carnellian05

carnellian05 — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 20:48:18 +0000

In addition to the list above, I also found the following books helpful…

- Better Single than Sorry by Jenn Scheftt: I was initially skeptical of this one because it was written by someone from the show the Bachelorette. At the time, I only bought it because it the price was significantly discounted. This book is not at all academic, but I like the fact that she collected views and personal anecdotes from different people about why it’s great to be single and hold out for the right person. After reading this, I felt empowered and grateful and excited to be single.

- Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle: This book is about meditation and awakening to the present. It greatly helped me process and deal with the intense pain and suffering that I felt after my first breakup.

- Road Less Traveled by M.Scott Peck: This book was quoted multiple times in Susan’s GPYP website, and it is one of those books that has made a profound impact in my life. I was dealing with so many questions and frustrations regarding my breakup, and this book helped me accept the reality that many things are simply not under our control. The book dispels a lot of myths that are heavily ingrained in our society, such as expectations that life should be fair and good things happen to good people.

Comment on 7/10 Check in by Susan J. Elliott

Susan J. Elliott — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 20:46:12 +0000

I put “taking photos” in the self-care part of the book because I believe it is SO therapeutic!!! Thanks for the tip.

Comment on 7/10 Check in by Susan J. Elliott

Susan J. Elliott — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 20:45:10 +0000

Good for you. I stayed in most of last summer writing the book and this year with Michael’s illness. It’s funny how you take something like “going outside” for granted.

Everyone: GO OUTSIDE! leave the cell phone, blackberry etc behind and just get out and experience the world!!!

Thanks Greenroses! (as always!)