actions not words…. if they don’t match.. .then something is definately up..

But things to consider:
1) Don’t rush into ANYTHING. Sit back and let the other person show you who he/she is for QUITE a while. DO NOT tell another person “what you are looking for”. That allows people to show you only that side. Keep it to yourself!
2) Be VERY suspicious of anybody who tells you they love you or wants to jump into a serious relationship early on (like in the first three weeks)
3) Hold back on the physicality. That screws with your mind, literally.
4) There are people who present a facade to the world. Is this one?
5) What are the person’s friends like? Birds of feather people!
6) What does the person DO. Ignore everything that person says. What does s/he DO???

Stay around here and youll get strong.

He is grandpa to my 2 yr old grand daughter I am raising and the only male figure in her life. He comes over every Monday night to visit with her but the last 2 weeks has come over twice a week. After she goes to bed he stays and visits with me which gives me encouragement that we may get back together.

Last night he said he was “thinking of us going for a short get-a-way” meaning a weekend but didn’t think he could financially afford to pay for it. I offered to help pay for it and feel like I totally back-slided on my commitment to my recovery. He said we’ll see and that usually means nothing will come of it. I have been his lowest priority for the last 2.5 yrs and have settled for what I call “crumbs”.

I can’t bring myself to do no contact, still love him and am very attracted to him even though we haven’t been sexual for a year and a half.

Help!

i have heard good things about the group in my area…
i have done Match and Eharmony, i guess i have met some nice friends…. nothing serious yet…

remember what Susan says… whater seeks its own level…
so people looking for meat will find it… people looking to make friends will find that too…

thanks for your support :)
i am feeling better today

My personal experience with these types of sites is that you run the risk of people being not exactly truthful.

I would recomend instead trying meetup.com. That way you can meet people that are interested in the types of activities that you are. It is not a dating site so generally isn’t a “meat market”

Maybe you all can give me insight on this.

I’ve been debating on going on something like eHarmony and the debate in my head goes something like this:

Against: Stop trying to control things and being so impatient. You will meet the right guy when it’s time, and you need to be TOTALLY at peace with being single. Going on a website to find a date is NOT something someone at peace with being single would do.

For: You can be at peace with being single and still want to open yourself to meeting someone. It is very difficult to meet and know if someone has a chance of being right for you, so something like this is a very good way to meet potential partners. It’s also a good chance to practice healthy dating, by practicing on people you don’t know and never need see again.

Thoughts?

Reb